Friday, April 10, 2026

When to Leave the Table

 


My studio has a corner where infrequently used, but still dear to my memories, items are kept. Among these is an old Panasonic portable radio/cassette player, a 9 inch screen car plug-in TV with a built-in DVD player, and letters from old friends who have passed.

Next to that area are the wall shelves where I keep most of my vintage mechanical cameras that I still use for my B&W photography. So, I call that corner of my studio “the place where time has taken a respite.”

Last night I decided to do some spring cleaning to free up space in “the place.” Instead, I took out the Panasonic radio and inserted a cassette tape from the 1970s that was labeled “Aznavour.”

 

… Charles Aznavour was a famous French singer, and his songs were poetry delivered with the thoughtfulness of a person who had lived his songs. He was one of three such singers who sang in French and touched my teenage years – Jacques Brel, Charles Aznavour and Georges Brassens.

On that moment, I did not need technology – just the sound waves to take me back decades.

One of the songs is “Il faut savoir” (one must know) and its lyrics meant little to me when I was a budding young man. But yesterday, the message of the song seemed to touch on many of the life experiences I have had since. Here are the famous lines where Aznavour gives a life lesson he had learned the hard way:

 

“ Il faut savoir quitter la table, lorsque l'amour est desservi" (One must know how to leave the table, when love is no longer served).

"Sans s'accrocher, l'air pitoyable, mais partir sans faire de bruit" (Without holding on, looking pitiful, but leaving without making noise).

 

I listened to the song twice, hanging on to the words of those two lines. And I realized that the imagery of being on the table where love is served (or no longer served) had stayed in my view of life experiences through my photography and past writings. Indeed, one of my books’ cover (circa 2000) showed a woman sitting alone at a table next to mine in a dimly lit Fado restaurant, in Lisboa. I had a Nikon F2 with me, rested it on my table, set the shutter speed to 1/15th seconds and zone focused. It remains one of my favorite shots. The title of my book is “Table for One”….

 

Over time, Aznavour’s lesson has also applied to instances when dignity, empathy and kindness were no longer served. When the table served no food for the soul. When holding on was ignorance.

 

The photo atop the page includes a woman, seemingly thoughtful, perhaps disappointed, at the lonesome table listening to Portuguese Fado which always is melancholic and full of longing. But was I reflecting on my own feelings? Perhaps she just came alone to the Fado restaurant. But why were there two wine glasses, yet empty, on the table?

 

Here is another photo that I took in Bellagio, Italy that follows Aznavour’s philosophy:

 


 

In the country of love and romanticism, an empty street and lonesome trattoria tables seem out of place.

 

Finally, below a poem I had published in 2022 (https://vahezen.blogspot.com/2022/02/i-did-wait.html) that perhaps shows how the lyrics of a 1961 song can stay in us and resurface:

 

 

April 10, 2026

© Vahé A. Kazandjian, 2026



I Did Wait

 


 


 

Then

 

I held 

each worry bead

for the space

of a name

 

Now

 

a bottle of Cava

and a window

without

a frame

 

Often

 

I let

one bead slide

as I held

the next one

 

a while

longer

next to

a round table

 

where the space

of a name

was lovingly

left

lonely

 

February 19, 2022

©Vahé A. Kazandjian, 2022

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