It remains pure joy to get feedback from my readers. Especially when something I wrote triggers personal questions or opens windows on a new morning of wondering for them. After more than 100,000 reads on this blog alone, every email and question I get also help me explore further thoughts I had shared.
… “You wrote that passion ends in love and that love becomes dependency. Is that a natural cycle of human relationships?”
The reader was referring to a poem I wrote on
January 22, 2022 about love being the only freedom from attachment. (1)
So I read the poem again, and after my second Sunday
morning coffee, decided to visually depict what I had in mind in January 2022.
Over the lucky years I have left behind, love and
passion have always helped me find the north on my compass. Be that the love
for the sciences, the welcoming of eccentric muses for my exploration in the
arts, or the love so many have shared along welcoming paths.
And, distilling the essence of experiences has often
resulted in a simplified optic of what I have known and what may I discover
next. It is a comforting process.
As such, I believe that the starting state of any
intimacy should be passion. A total dedication to making feeling freelance and
powerful. Explosive and unconstrained. Driven without boundaries, or caution.
Such volcanic eruptions do not last, are almost self
consuming. But they are often once in a lifetime events, as mountains can
attest.
Love, if the intimacy is built on that passionate
state of togetherness, could result. It is the meadows that replace the larva;
the trout that jump from new springs; and the shade new trees give to summer
storms.
And, over time, the springs, the trees and the
meadows learn to depend on each other. Not in ways of a burden of co-existence
but as a harmony. Dependency allows independence to become more introspective. Certain predictability becomes welcomed while the mountain
remains a reminder of past outburst and upsurge.
… So, I drew three Van Diagrams to show the overlap
of intimacy through passion, love and dependency. Each diagram is a stage of
beatitude. I called that cycle Passlod.
And the words from K. Gibran’s “The Prophet” resonated in
me as I finished drawing the last diagram:
“Love
each other but make not a bond of love:
Let
it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.
Fill
Each other’s cup but drink not from one cup.
Give
one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf.
Sing
and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone,
Even
as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music.
Give
your heart, but not into each other’s keeping.
For
only the hand of Life can contain your hearts.
And
stand together, yet not too near together:
For
the pillars of the temple stand apart,
And
the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other’s shadow.”
I hope I answered my reader’s question, with
gratitude.
PS/ Van Diagrams are commonly used to visualise the
intersection, overlap and association between two or three concepts, events or
predictions. I did not show passion, love and dependency in one diagram as, in
my experience, these rarely happen simultaneously. Rather, as in my poem, they
are transformative over time. They are an evolution.
© Vahé A. Kazandjian, 2026
(1) https://vahezen.blogspot.com/2022/01/love-is-only-freedom-from-attachment.html
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